Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Should we celebrate it? And if so, how can we avoid platitudes and “rose syrup” and make this evening truly special? Warning: 18+ content.
Is it worth celebrating February 14th at all?
If we don’t quibble about the origins of Valentine’s Day and its inconsistency with our holiday calendar, then why not? This day is not about family values, but about people who are in love, whether they are in a long-term relationship or not.
But this does not mean that any couple should celebrate it, otherwise they are not a couple, and everything is bad in their relationship. Mutual understanding should be at the forefront. It is not like one partner wants to go wild on this day, and the other is determined to ignore this date. You can always find a compromise. For example, if you personally do not consider February 14 a holiday and do not want to celebrate it, you can limit yourself to a symbolic reminder. Just say that, despite your dislike for Valentine, you really love your partner (and add something at your discretion).
And for everyone else – those who unanimously recognize this date – there are no obligations either. The holiday does not mean that you have to go to a restaurant or hang yourself with hearts and watch rom-coms together all evening. It is better to go with a truly memorable scenario.
Valentine’s Day “in an adult way”: 5 ideas
Let the whole world wait
Alternatively, the couple spends the day away from home. Both take a day off from work and check into a hotel room or country house together.
Let it be a room with a large bathroom. You can ask the hotel administration in advance to decorate everything beautifully: sprinkle rose petals, decorate the room and bathroom in exciting dark colors (for example, burgundy), prepare sparkling wine with a bucket of ice, and so on – it all depends on the budget you are counting on.
A pleasant surprise
Let everyone prepare a surprise for their other half by this time. But! It is agreed in advance that these surprises do not go beyond personal boundaries and agreements (which you have made before). No strangers and “third wheels” without the partner’s prior consent! No crowds of people who will come to congratulate you! And so on.
What kind of surprises can be depends solely on your imagination. I suggest an option: record a sensual home video in advance (in which you, for example, dance or cook something in a revealing outfit) and take a flash drive with this video to your private hotel room. Or show it to your partner from your phone. You will see that your surprise will be appreciated.
Like the first time
Another plan: recreate the first date . Yes, you might hear that it’s trite, but in reality, very few couples do this. If people are not new to each other, why not remember the moment of meeting, if it wasn’t too “cringe-worthy”.
Suggest: “Let’s remember the first time we met.” If you don’t remember how it all happened, you can organize everything from scratch: “Let’s pretend that we don’t know each other and we get to know each other right now? What would you say to me now? What would you ask me? Where would we go?” — and then act according to this scenario.
Games with erotic overtones
This is another way to add some spice to this holiday. Ready-made game sets can be purchased in 18+ stores. You can play fantasy games or games of desire. Be prepared to make them come true. For example, many people dream of an erotic massage, so it is worth buying oils, massage candles and everything else on this topic in advance.
Another popular fantasy is virtual sex. You and your partner can pretend to have a video call – that is, literally call each other. Let one of you ask the other to do something on camera. And you are in the same room. This makes the game even more interesting, because at the right moment, virtual sex can turn into real sex.
Sensuality at its maximum
If it has already reached the bed, try to make sure that everything that happens is remembered by both of you. It is better to practice not the standard 15-minute sex, but something slow, static, incredibly sensual. Make love blindfolded – this will help to increase the sensitivity of all receptors as much as possible. Try some interesting positions, experiment with toys, with the involvement of some accessories. Or work on the visual, appear before him in an exotic image. For men, the visual side of the issue works 150%, so we will not go anywhere from this.
What Not to Do on Valentine’s Day
There is one prohibition: on February 14, and on any other day. If something went wrong during your intimate performance, do not doubt yourself, do not get lost, and do not make excuses. Without any “Oh, I’m so sorry”, “Oh, how awful!”. Translate everything into a joke as much as possible, into a new game – it should be easy, so that it does not bother anyone.
Even if it happened at the most delicate moment (something got stuck in a toy, for example) – no big deal. Both are alive, healthy, and most importantly – together. Laughed and moved on.
If we talk about what you simply shouldn’t do, then you don’t need to constantly, every five minutes, say: “I love you”, “I love you so much”, “I love you-love you-love you”. The fact that you repeat it so often doesn’t change anything. It’s better to show it. Starting with the table (if you set it, then put out some dish, treat, dessert that your partner loves) and ending with a nice little thing as a gift. Even if it’s a simple chocolate bar or a type of coffee that your other half has been looking for or dreaming of buying for a long time. Yes, it’s not a “Rolls-Royce”, but it’s proof that you listen, remember and take into account everything your loved one says, and therefore – love.
By the way, about gifts.
How and what to give for Valentine’s Day: unconventional options
Teddy bears, valentines and everything else with hearts, to put it mildly, have become boring for everyone. They are not bad… if you exchange them at school or university. But for adult partners (it does not matter whether the couple was created yesterday or 20 years ago) this is not serious and too banal. Any gift in which you put at least a little imagination will be better.
Yes, it is usually easier to choose a present for a man. It is more difficult to please a woman. Moreover, it should be a special, memorable gift. What can I advise in this case? Ask her directly what she would like to receive. You can even ask this question at night, on the eve of February 14 (at night she can say anything!). Ask – and immediately give it to her. That would be top notch.
But if you want to hit the bull’s eye, it’s better to ask her about her cherished desires in advance. And ask her to choose several options at once. After all, as “one thing, but the very best”, a girl can order a one-day tour to the Seychelles, a helicopter ride, and anything else. You should have about three stories of varying degrees of probability in reserve. Choose the most acceptable one and act according to this scenario.
This will create a moment of intrigue: “Why did he ask? Maybe he’s going to give it to you?”… And you will actually do it.
It would be great if this was accompanied by some nice little thing (a postcard with a couple of very personal lines, a warm jumper, a ring, hand cream, etc.).
This also works in the opposite direction – a young man will also be happy to receive his favorite shampoo or some cool toothpaste, a fancy toothbrush, a cool shower gel with a very tasty smell: men also adore such things!
He will surely like a men’s underwear set “week”, a T-shirt with a custom print or some other souvenir that can be made to order. You can complement it with symbols associated with you, for example, a heart and the inscription “Your Bunny (Cat, Mouse or any other secret nickname)” on the back.
That is, it is worth giving something that only two people will know about. This is certainly valuable and will bring joy.